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The Truth about ‘Reality’ TV (Lessons for Bloggers & Creatives)

Many people think reality TV pays well and you’ll be an overnight celebrity. That’s not entirely true, although some people have made money from it or from the public exposure to their brands. Take a look at Bethany Frankel, who has published books and developed a booze line or Lauren Conrad, also an author with a net worth of $12 million.

Last year, I worked with DiGa Vision, a production company started by two former MTV creatives, on a reality TV show about cults that never made it on the air. I learned a lot in those few months and I had to learn quickly. Since reality TV is all the craze lately, I feel like it’s important to talk about my experience so people can learn from my mistakes. I made plenty and you will make them, too, if you aren’t careful.

Here are some tips for bloggers:

Protect your ideas and story

The minute a producer comes knocking at your door (or email), you need to be very careful what ideas you share and how much of your story you share. Your own story may seem very insignificant and unimportant to you. I know I underestimated the power of my own story for years.

You should never share your ideas with producers, but you need to know that if they don’t offer you a contract or money for consulting, then you might be feeding their creative process but will never end up getting paid. Don’t offer or accept interviews ever until something is in writing.

Don’t be deceived: Producers won’t pay you for your original ideas

The development of a reality TV show has already occurred or been discussed heavily with various creative staff at the production company, DESPITE what the recruiter/casting people tell you. They are looking for a few gullible people to tell them all their original ideas or life stories, though, to enhance the shitty ideas they have. What else could possibly make a reality TV show more authentic, than plucking ideas from genuinely unassuming people.

Like me.

I asked for compensation for my ideas and/or consulting credit on the show to no avail. I still shared my ideas, assuming they would do the right thing in the end. Of course they didn’t. If I could tell you one thing–don’t follow my lead. Learn from my mistakes.

Get a SIGNED contract before you film or record a thing

The one thing you need to know is that if they are interested in working with you at all, they will give you a contract to secure you as talent.

The casting director spent months over the phone with me (of course…there’s no paper trail via phone) getting my life story and a long list of the cults I investigate. Then, when he got a good idea of what kind of investigative journalism I did, he sent a video crew to my house to film me. I had no contract, and the film crew was going to leave without even telling me about the video release form I was supposed to sign.

When I called the VP of casting to ask her where the video release form was, she presented me with a 16 page contract granting me no compensation, but securing me for a pilot and various other filming and appearances. Wait? A TV pilot without getting paid? Are you fucking out of your mind?

I should have ran when I saw that contract, but they already had my footage. I knew they were presenting it to the CW. What I didn’t know is that it would all end, leaving me with questions about whether my footage was shared with other people in the same network. It was all too coincidental.

Do not go on camera for them without a contract in writing, reviewed by your lawyer. Of course they’ll need a video interview and they will need to do screen tests, but there should be contracts in place to secure you as talent before this happens. Once you go on film, they can and will use that footage without paying you, crediting you or even hiring you as talent.

Production companies who won’t listen to your requests and won’t give you a contract are not interested in putting you on TV despite what they say. They are interested in screwing you over, though.

Reality TV isn’t about ethics

I often get contacted by journalists who want to know more about cults or who are interested in doing a story on survivors. I generally grant them interviews after reviewing their credentials and portfolio, and refer survivors to them for their story because journalists are in an entirely different business than reality TV producers. In fact, one journalist I’d spoke with last year ended up winning a prestigious award from USC for her stories on groups I work with. Journalists are in the business of uncovering new and fresh stories for the public to digest. They often make the world a better place by exposing corruption of groups like mine, and on a personal note, some of the journalists I’ve met are damn good people.

I made the mistake of speaking to a producer just a few weeks ago without a contract. My new policy is: No interviews with TV producers without a written deal and signed contract. Oh and that line they’ll give you, “Well what do you want? How much do you want to get paid? Tell me and we’ll see if we can work it out.” Um, no. You’re not in the industry, they are. Tell them to fuck off and come back with a proposal in writing with numbers or you’re not interested.

If you don’t get a contract in writing, do not interview with a producer, especially if you have a very compelling and marketable life story. If they’re looking for a sucker, they’ll find one. Don’t let it be you.

Pay an attorney to review contracts and emails

Attorneys will require a retainer fee up front and if you’re approached randomly, like I was, you may not have the money to pay a lawyer. Do not negotiate the contract yourself. Find the money and pay a lawyer to negotiate and communicate to the producers for you. It will save you a lot of stress and frustrations, and it will help you get a better overall deal.

Lawyers are trained to read these twelve to eighteen page contracts that are geared to screw you over. Let them do their job. If the deal falls through, yes, you’ve lost a few thousand dollars on attorney fees. But you didn’t lose rights to your life story, ideas and talent. The thousands of dollars in legal fees are well worth it because one day, your story might be worth a hell of a lot of money and your lawyer will have helped you keep all the rights to it.

Production companies don’t pay well

The job of a reality TV show or documentary production company is to produce a video presentation to pitch to a network with a very small working budget. Some production companies certainly have more money than others, but not all. If you are offered monetary compensation, it may be very little up front.

There seems to be some evidence that reality TV stars have negotiated for more money after their first or second season, but often at the risk of jeopardizing their place on the show.

I was never compensated for my work and when I was offered the first contract, my compensation was ZERO. Yes, $0. DiGa wanted to pay me nothing to be on call to film for three months. Then they bumped it up to $1500 per episode, which I wouldn’t receive until after the show aired and only if it aired. I had a well paying job, so while it was tempting to be on TV, it wasn’t tempting enough. These numbers were a total joke compared to what I was making at my office job.

Their offer was an insult.

Even after weeks of negotiations, I wasn’t happy with the compensation they were offering.
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(Figure 1, page 3 of the contract presented to me stating my work on the TV show was not a performance and is not employment and does not entitle me to wages, etc.)

The truth about reality TV

You WILL be a slave to the network starting from the day you film. See Figure 2 below.
Diga Vision Contract (Figure 2, Screen shot of page 1 of the contract I received for a six-year commitment to film)

Notice the last line in paragraph 1 that states “The rights granted herein shall also include the right to edit, delete, dub and fictionalize the Footage and Materials, the Program, and the Advertisements as Producer sees fit in Producer’s sole discretion.”

You or someone else will be the villain

And as a reality TV actor, you agree to this. You agree to be defamed, embarrassed, and you agree to the terms below, allowing the producer to release personal, private and surprising information about you.

Diga Vision Contract defamation

(Figure 3, taken from the pages of my contract)

If you watch reality TV, like me, you see villains like Teresa Guidice and begin to hate her. It starts feeling very Big Brother-like—peering into someone’s life at every waking moment and despising them based on what’s depicted to you under the guise that it’s real.

Reality TV is NOT real.

Take this Jezebel article that talks about the producers setting Teresa Guidice up to get framed for calling Melissa, her sister-in-law, a stripper:

Real Housewives New Jersey

(Real Housewives of NJ Producer Reveals Just How Far Reality TV Will Go to Manufacture Drama, Jezebel)

Why doesn’t anyone point their fingers at the show’s producers? Because those producers can be (and often are) unethical assholes. They lock up the potential stars in low-paying, highly restrictive contracts that ensure the stars will be the producer’s puppets for the entire life of the show.

Recently, I was watching the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills and noticed a very odd moment where something Brandi Glanville said was muted. I had never heard anything muted on that show or others like it before, so I was surprised. Come to find out, Brandi’s muted statement was that fellow cast member Adrienne Maloof used a surrogate to have her children. Later, I read that Adrienne’s lawyers made Bravo mute the statement Brandi made. Clearly, having money pays when dealing with a TV network. Otherwise, you’re screwed.

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Today my lawyer brought to my attention the lawsuit between David Hester and A&E, the network that produces the show “Storage Wars”. Hester’s lawsuit claims the show has been staged and valuable items have been placed in lockers to dramatize the show. He’s made a lot of heavy claims against the network including accusing the network of committing fraud on the public.

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(Lawsuit claims A&E’s ‘Storage Wars’ show is rigged, SF Gate)

Considering that Hester’s lawsuit claims the network is violating a federal law, this could be a potentially game-changing legal battle for reality TV show actors.

After all, reality TV isn’t really real. Like Hester says, it’s fake.

 

Here are the links to two of the initial contracts presented to me for the work I was to do:

Contract 1 (Pay special attention to page 7, paragraph 8 (f) in Contract 1 where they specifically do not care if I died. True story. Had I signed this agreement, I would be signing away the right to hold the producers or network responsible for my own death. Seriously, guys?)

Contract 2

 

FAQs

Frequently Asked Questions

ABOUT LISA
What’s next for you?
Stuff with cats. Definitely. Also, a memoir. I’ve been working on it for a very long time, but as Terry Tempest Williams said: “There’s such a pressure to write fast, to get it done, but one of the most important things in writing nonfiction is to have patience.” Memoir is a difficult genre to write well, so I’ve been learning to be patient with myself and to trust myself.

I’ll be publishing more in the future. You can always find an up-to-date bio with my publications on my official website.

Why haven’t you answered my email or accepted my friend request or Tweeted me back?
My blog began with a few hundred readers who were all friends, making it easy to email everyone back. In an unexpected turn of events, people started reading this blog and the amount of requests have been overwhelming.

As I recently posted on Facebook,

I’m sifting through my inbox at the moment, working on my book proposal and I’m seeing so many kind, thoughtful emails. I think during my moments of deep insecurity and anxiety over the past few years, I’ve failed to see just how MANY KIND PEOPLE have reached out to me.

I just wanted to say THANK YOU for each email, personal story, comments, kind words, tears and painful memories over the years. I’ve read each one and when I re-read them, many make me cry because our lives took such similar paths and like me, many of you are on your road to recovery. It’s actually very beautiful.

I’ve tried to make it a point to respond to emails as they come in but as I’m going through my inbox now I’m realizing how many emails I have not been able to answer and some of those emails are very personal stories that deserve a response.

I wish I could write each one of you your own novel-length letter (something I was once famous for doing to friends) but I can’t promise that I will. I do cherish them all and read every one, so thank you!

I am on Facebook and on Twitter. You can also subscribe to my public updates here. You can contact me via email. I read all your correspondence but may not be able to respond. My email address is info @ mycultlife . com. I love reading your stories, so bring them on!

If you are looking for an immediate answer, social media is probably the best place to find me, BUT please take the time to search my website first. I began blogging in June, 2010. As you can imagine, I have covered a lot of ground. The best way to find answers to your questions about me, Master’s Commission, Mercy Ministries, Our Savior’s Church, etc. is to use the search bar at the right, or read the blog from the very last page forward. Another resource is the Sitemap which lists every single page and post and organizes them by category. If you cannot find something, please email me.

Why don’t you feed the trolls anymore?
Making things online brings the trolls out to play. The Oatmeal talks about it extensively at the bottom of this comic: http://theoatmeal.com/comics/making_things

For those of you who haven’t experienced trolls, online haters, etc., it’s actually momentarily debilitating, especially when you are new to it. After this long, I’m less interested in reading hateful comments and emails and I do ignore them. So, if you see me ignoring someone’s hateful comment, that’s because I’m silently judging them. I decided about a year ago that I cannot and will not change everyone’s mind. People will disagree with me and that’s okay. I welcome that, but be respectful. My motto is: life and let live. If someone wants to stay in the dark, brainwashed, extremist, etc., then nothing I can say will change that. My argument will not either.

But you HAVE to hear my story about attending Master’s Commission (or Mercy Ministries, etc.). My group was different! They’re not all like that. I swear.
I get this email often.
Regarding Master’s Commission: I spent several years in Master’s Commission and worked for the Master’s Commission International Network (MCIN). If you’re not familiar with the MCIN, please look it up before you email me so you understand this program is structured. I planned conferences with Lloyd Zeigler’s teams and know the ins and outs of many of the groups that existed during 1998-2005 because of my position within the MCIN. Because of that, I feel qualified to speak about Master’s Commission with more authority than most.

When I left in 2008, I sent eight pages of formal complaints and suggestions to the MCIN board of directors and Lloyd Zeigler. Between 2008-2010, I had several extended phone conversations with Lloyd about my complaints and about my blog. Judging from those conversations, and primarily that Lloyd supported unpaid extended internships (1 year +), I cut off all contact with him and continued to blog. My research is ongoing, and I consider my writing almost a responsibility to prevent future cases of abuse, misrepresentation and exploitation. I also consider Master’s Commission to be a physically and mentally harmful environment.

I do not endorse any Master’s Commission program. If a student/staff member devoted 7 years of her life to an organization and says that, perhaps it’s something worth looking into.

But I want to go into Youth Ministry. Isn’t Master’s Commission the best option for me?
No. Despite Master’s Commission claims, many of my peers had a difficult time getting placement in a youth ministry position. Often, they would end up taking a job any position they could in a church, or attempted to start their own Master’s Commission. Many of them took those routes and continue to struggle spiritually and financially.

I want a gap year before entering college. I plan on becoming a professional and I feel like Master’s Commission will make me a better person.
I usually stay away from statements like this, but if you plan on becoming a professional, you are ABSOLUTELY making the wrong decision to enter Master’s Commission.
But Master’s claims they use an accredited college, so I can start college in MC and continue when I leave.
As of the publication of this page, Master’s Commission is not using an accredited college despite what they say on their website. Look into it further for yourself. Your coursework will not be transferable to any accredited academic institution.

But my experiences in Master’s Commission are invaluable and have been life changing.
If you say so. I think you’re dumb. No, really.

What about Mercy Ministries?
Unfortunately, vehement supporters of Mercy Ministries seem to be blinded by what the leadership says. Since my writing about Mercy Ministries in January 2012, they have changed their website content and official statements multiple times. Their statements remain inconsistent to multiple reports that have been done by government agencies, journalists and interviews I’ve done with former residents.

Would you investigate my group or story? I see you’ve helped others.
I do take on work by a case-by-case basis. However, I’m currently not taking on any new groups. I have good news for you, though. The best research tool you have is before you and you’re on it. The computer and the internet have nearly all the answers you’re seeking. Journey into the deep, young Frodo. “Concealed within his fortress, the lord of Mordor internet sees all…You know of what I speak, Gandalf: a great Eye, lidless, wreathed in flame Webbiness.”

Seriously, though, I’ve written a lot on this site and in my eBook. I have tips for parents and students, a guide on how to find a therapist and a lot of other things. If you can’t afford it, email me, and I’ll see what I can do.

WRITING
I’m a writer. Will you help me get published?
No. The secrets are ALL mine! (Kidding, but still…no.) Here’s how you can find out more info on getting published.

Okay, seriously, I do not mean to be condescending at all. Forgive my humor. I actually cannot help anyone at the moment because of my current schedule.

I want to help young writers find their way very badly, and one day I will have time to do so. Writing, and the “calling” to be a writer is exhilarating and fulfilling. I am not (yet) giving any workshops or classes and I haven’t written any books on writing. I’m still in the learning process myself (and I hope I always will be). Besides, few people want to learn to write well, they seek me out to ask how to be published. I’ll be honest, I will make you work for those answers because if you aren’t ready to commit yourself to being a great writer, I’m not sure we are the best fit for each other. I firmly believe that you must be focused on writing well before you should chase after getting published. Take difficult literature classes, or workshops where your devotion to the craft is tested. Then, let’s talk. That is not to say you need to be perfect or know it all. On the contrary, I simply mean you must be devoted to your work and a professional standard and eager to learn.

If you really want to be published, you will find a way. You will work regularly writing, editing, reading, and sending out work. At some point, I will offer myself more deeply to this and maybe even teach regularly, but I have to devote time to my own writing first.

I am actually asked this question very often. For now, the best answers I can provide are on my website. I have writing lessons and links to online writing groups I’ve started. I will update you when I’ve decided what workshops I will offer and where.

Will you read my work?
No, I can’t right now. You can and should join a writer’s group or a writing class where you will find lots of people who will read your work and where you will improve your editing techniques.

Can I send you an idea for a great novel?
No. Please do not send me your ideas. I will not read ideas for any novels, memoirs, etc. Please submit those to a literary agent. You can find an agent at Agent Query online.

Can I take you to coffee so we can discuss blogging/writing/sleeping together?
Definitely not.

If you don’t read my work, I will stalk you and leave you hateful comments everywhere you go for the rest of your life.
Your mom will leave hateful comments.

Dear Lisa, I hate you.

Here are some kittens.

And some dogs.

 

I just need some advice from you.
I’m not qualified to counsel people. I’m a writer. I like to make jokes or paint images with words, but I definitely don’t take the “leader” or “guru” role in anyone’s life and don’t want to. In fact, I refuse to tell people what to do because I believe that you are strong enough to find your own path. You don’t need me.

You may want to consider seeking out a therapist. It helped me a great deal. There are low-cost therapists all over the country. Please check their credentials and licensing before committing to one, and interview them prior to making an appointment.

MISC
Dude, why are you so bitter?
I think I’m pretty funny but for some reason I attract a lot of weirdos here who think I’m Satanic/bitchy/bitter. If you are here reading, you need to have a sense of humor. Don’t take yourself too seriously. Don’t take me too seriously. Sure, it’s a fucking serious subject, but (damn, Gina!) lightenthefuckup.jpg.

I think you’re really hot. Can we start talking/dating/sending nude photos to each other?
Absolutely not. However, if you want to send nudes, I’ll gladly broadcast them all over the internet. Consider yourself warned.

Can I send you a dick picture? I’m good in bed.
Save us all some time and just post it to Reddit for us.

Can I have your number?
Wtf is up with people asking for my phone number? I don’t know you. Stop asking for my phone number, dude. It’s weird.

If you’re super hot, you CAN get a hold of me here: 704-255-1887

RELIGIOUS VIEWS
What are your religious views?
For more information, visit http://www.itsnoneofyourbusiness.com.
I’m not a believer. I’m also not a Belieber. I don’t care if you are, but I do care if you tell me I should be one. If you want to tell me I should get saved, first visit this site: http://www.shutyourpiehole.com for directions on how to get a hold of me with your opinions.

Do you hate all religions?
No. Religion is a cultural norm. People grow up conditioned to believe very strongly in religion because it’s important to their family/culture. That is normal but forcing it onto other people is not. I don’t want to join your religion.

My hope is that we can get along peacefully without pushing our religious beliefs on others, and that starts with you. If you do this, stop.

I don’t like that answer. Can I email you about you should believe in Jesus?
Sure. Send it here: shoveitupyourbutthole@gmail.com

Another Pastor Paid Lavish Salary But Still Wants More Money

Crystal Cathedral Ministries filed for Chapter 11 bankruptcy Oct. 18, according to the OC Register, yet the Schullers want church members to deliver food to their limo drivers (wait, they have limo drivers?!) because Arvella Shuller is sick with pneumonia.

Church members are upset because the request came at a time when their church is in “bankruptcy and information coming out through court documents has suggested that the Schullers took nearly $10 million from the church’s endowment funds.”

Oh dear. A pastor wouldn’t take $10 million dollars from a church fund, would he? That definitely would not explain the private limo drivers. I mean, I have a limo driver, of course. Don’t you?

“They’ve completely depleted the church’s funds,” he said. “But they have shown that they have absolutely no remorse for what they’ve done. They’re still being chauffeured around in limos. We, the congregants, have nothing.” [OC Register]

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Losing My Job

In July I lost my job. I decided to go back to school, considering I only had one semester left and considering that I was offered unemployment. It sounded like a good plan until things went incredibly different than the plan.

First, Senioritis started kicking in pretty heavily. Not only did I not want to attend class, I decided no one was going to make me. This has since backfired on me, because college has turned into high school and two of my four professors make attendance mandatory, with penalties to your grade.

Second, I lost my unemployment benefits because I’m in school. Essentially, I told the truth about being in school (which most people don’t do, I’m assuming?) and stopped getting any money. I’m usually not one to “ask for a handout” but in this case, I needed my benefits to continue. My expertise is in administration and that requires that I be available to work Monday to Friday, 8-5. With my school schedule, there was no way I could find a job to support me through my last few months of school.

When I lost my unemployment, I started job searching. I applied for anything and everything I was qualified for, and even jobs I was overqualified for. My plan was to start working, even if that meant I had to quit school mid-semester because of my financial hardships.

I got an interview for a part time position, even though I’d applied for many full time positions. The interview went well, but as it turns out, they hired someone else.

This past week I interviewed at a bookstore. I love books and I love this store, but I’ll be making less than half of what I was making before. It’s not enough to support me.  So, I was frantically searching for a place to live here in the LA area that would be affordable. It turns out all I was able to afford was a small room for rent in a house with 3 other adults, 2 kids and 2 dogs. Plus, my 2 cats. What a nightmare. I came home from looking at that room for rent and broke down crying.

October has been the most depressing month ever.

I honestly felt so depressed about my financial situation that for the first time in years I thought I would rather be dead. Considering that I have a pretty bright future (recent publications and book-writing in progress), the depression was just even shittier.

Week after week I cried and things got worse. My landlords were showing my apartment and I was dreading moving. Then my parents called me and saved the day. It’s not that the economy has been treating them well. They’re in sales and they lost a lot of business over the past few years due to the economy. Somehow, thankfully, they’re able to help me. It’s humbling to be the one who needs help, but it’s just the way it is right now. Our economy is terrible. I can’t wait to be finished with school so I can go back to work full-time. Although I hate administrative work, it’s what pays the bills. And in this economy, I’m grateful to have my bills paid.